Tinder For Older Generation
Tinder wasn’t designed for any specific age group, although it tends to be most popular with singles in their 20s. In fact, Tinder has said half of its users are Generation Z. That's consistent with reporting from other sources: That being said, it attracts people of all ages to varying degrees. For couples like Jean and Robert, Tinder can be a godsend. The two had 150 mutual friends, and Robert was the son of Jean’s dentist, yet they still didn’t meet until fatefully swiping on each. How to create a Tinder account. Step by step, I’m going to take you through the creation of a Tinder. The Tinder Generation. Posted by loverlo. I think that the birth of Tinder and its quick rise in popularity can tell you everything you need to know about my generation and its attitude toward sex and dating. And the fact that it has become the norm and an accepted form of online dating has created a ripple effect into dating as a whole.
Tinder is dead.
However, the younger generation vastly outnumbers the older generation on Tinder, so you may find it difficult to meet age-appropriate dates here. According to Tinder’s membership stats, over 50% of its active users are between 18 and 25 years old, and over 80% are under 35. That does leave many date prospects left for singles in their 40s.
Don’t get me wrong, Tinder was great when it first broke out onto the scene. But it has gradually evolved from its initial purpose of being a hook-up app to a “dating” app to what it is now – a validation-seeking app.
Given that the current generation of young people is socially deficient and isn’t getting laid, I’ve always been intrigued by Tinder. So much so that I’ve considered writing a PhD thesis on Tinder and becoming a sex researcher. You know, so that I can test whether squirting is actually peeing and collect flowback samples from vaginas.
Tinder’s recent move to impose a swipe limit was supposed to be good for all of us – people would exercise their limited swipes carefully and thus your matches are less likely to be flaky, right? Well, not so. Because anyone who has had any sort of success with Tinder knows that it’s all about the Numbers Game. The end result of the swipe limit is that more time-wasters, validation-seekers and fake profiles (including commercial hookers) = less success.
Sure, if you’re looking for a hook-up, there are still girls who are looking for the same thing lurking in the background waiting to be discovered. But the difference between then and now is this – with the tremendous increase in popularity of the app, the influx of girls coming on board comprises a ton of chicks who treat this whole swiping thing as a game.
Yeah, for people to compete with their friends how many matches they can get when they are bored on a lonely night at the bar. For people to boost their egos, seek attention, cock-tease you with no intention of ever meeting up.
Doesn’t matter if you look like Leonardo DiCaprio, or if you exchange endless texts and tell them thousands of jokes – it’s more likely that Leo wins another Oscar before they meet up with you in person. Simply because they are NOT AVAILABLE in the first place.
There you go, it’s now more challenging to sieve through all the noise and get to the needle in the haystack. You have to learn to “screen” harder than ever, to get through the time-wasters. Don’t be mistaken, you can still get laid if you persist. There are only two conditions: to find that chick who is available and DTF, and for you to be good looking enough for her.
What I’ve said varies according to a few factors – which determine the extent to which you might face this problem (so don’t be so quick to send me your hate mail). Some of the factors include:
1. a) Your Location – Is the city you live in filled with open-minded people who embrace a liberal culture, or do you live in a conservative country like me where people remain virgins until the age of 30 and then proceed to have sex 3 times in their whole lives between 30 and 40 years old (the three nights that their three children were conceived).
1. b) Your Standards – How low are you willing to go? Is your ego so huge that you are reluctant to go for anyone less than Megan Fox or Charlotte McKinney? Or are you prepared to lower your threshold because every human being looks the same after a couple of beers? And of course the most important factor at the end of the day is
1. c) Your Looks – Duh. That’s the hard truth.
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If you find that Tinder is not working out for you where you live, listen up. If you’ve been rotting in your basement the past 2 years swiping with no results, here is what you need to do. I have 3 solutions for you, to prove that I’m not just spewing drivel due to my lack of evolutionary success.
1) Filter hard. Real hard.
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Don’t waste your time engaging in long back-and-forth messages. Ask her out as soon as possible. Here’s my take on this. If she would agree to meet up after 20 messages, she would agree to meet up after 10 messages. If she would agree to meet up after 10 messages, she would agree to meet up after 5 messages. You get the idea. Yes I know, some women may need more time to get comfortable and get a lawyer to certify that you’re not a serial killer before agreeing to hang out.
But remember this – Excitement is more powerful than Comfort. If she already likes you, and you ask her out immediately – that’s exciting. There’s no need overdo the comfort part. Conversely, if she never intended to be down, you can’t change that no matter how many hours you chat. Instead of spending your precious time “building comfort”, it is more time-efficient to filter out the attention-seekers and go for those who are down to hang right away.
2) It’s all about branding.
To be very clear here, I’m speaking to men using the app for its original intended purpose – to hook-up. Since users of the app have now diversified so much, it’s important to “market” yourself correctly. If you’re looking to hook-up, then portray yourself as such – someone who knows what he is doing so she knows she is going to get a good time. If you’re looking to score a girlfriend or a potential wife, then portray yourself as boyfriend material, which may take you a longer time to get a girl out. Law of Attraction 101.
3) Better still, do what your grandfather did when he did not have technology during his time.
It’s time to return to the old days and stop hiding behind a screen. Get out of the house and get back to some good old approaching. Tinder was meant to help us save time by mass “approaching” tons of women. Because it’s a numbers game after all. But as they said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Unless you are Katniss Everdeen (Jennifer Lawrence) from Hunger Games, the odds are NOT in your fucking favor.
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Think about it, how many messages do women receive a day?
The harsh reality is that there are way too many horny men out there competing for a limited number of women looking for a hook-up. Or in economics terminology, there are no barriers to entry for men because they have nothing to lose.
See a cute girl on the street? Go up and make an introduction (in the most non-creepy way you can), get her number and hang out. It’s more energy consuming but in the long run, it would be the most effective way because straight-up approaching in real life takes balls of steel that not many men have. Sure, if hook-up apps are working for you – by all means continue sticking to your strategy. I’m speaking to the men out there who are sending out loads of messages all day with zero success whatsoever to speak for, yet continue to delude themselves that they are “saving time.”
TL;DR: Tinder is no longer the magic bullet to climbing the natural selection pyramid. Smart Bros have to think out of the box and innovate to stay ahead of the game. Don’t use technology as a clutch; get the hell out and talk to women.
“You are a walking contradiction,” Demi says to me as he peered into my eyes trying to unlock its secrets. He had interrogated me for the last 70 minutes. We were on a first date and somehow it felt more like an inquisition than a date. I met him on Tinder the previous week and we chatted for a couple of days before I summoned the courage to ask him out. It wasn’t a big deal, but call me old-fashioned I still wonder if people I meet online are serial killers.
For reasons I will not explain to you now I spent two weeks on Tinder, it was an experiment, of which I am not sure what my conclusions are. I found myself sitting across the table from my Russian interrogator, his probing gaze daring me to deny him the answers he desperately wanted.
“Where do young successful people (women especially) meet people?” I was asked two days before my Tinder explorations began. I get this question a lot, I don’t know the answer. I don’t think these so-called young successful people know either.
“Somewhere on the path of life?” I offered.
Somewhere between theorizing where these young people found to mingle: for love, friendship and dare I say it for sex, I found myself signing up for Tinder. There is some irony to that but I digress.
“You have to tell me more about your travels. Have you been to Saratov, I am from there.” Demi’s thick accent was giddy with excitement as he whispered the word ’Saratov’ like a love song, a longing for his home town no doubt.
I have never been to Saratov, much to his disappointment but his questions were not done. He had one critical one left.
“Why did you swipe right?” he asked.
Do people actually ask this question? Shouldn’t you just assume that people swiped right because something about you piqued their interest. Are we a generation of such insecurities that we are surprised that are carefully chosen images and perfectly crafted bios get us attention?
The truth: my friend that convinced me on this ludicrous exercise actually did. But I don’t tell him that, I know where all this is going. Instead, I get cheeky and ask, why did you?
“Because you look like you would be good in bed.” All sense of civility was gone, and the false curiosity about me peeled away. A part of me admired the moxy a statement like that must take but another part of me rang in the ‘told you so’ with a disappointing sigh.
The evening ended and Demi went home alone. I had a series of dates some playing out like the one above and others bored me to the point of narcolepsy. It really could just be me, I could just be a disinterested snob. Though from the people I have spoken to about their Tinder experiences, it seems there is a sense of understanding. One person called it a ‘sex app’.
In the last three weeks I have read a lot about Tinder experiences and what is happening to the generation of Tinderers. Young people all over the United States see Tinder and apps like it for what it is, is a means to gratification. One that mostly leaves women hollow and some men counting.
Tinder is a platform sorely dedicated to satisfying the sexual appetite of a generation too busy to figure out how to make connections away from screens. It gives this generation carte blanche on openness and sometimes bad behavior. It is the play ground of instant gratification, there is little to no real human connection there.
It has been touted as the hookup culture, 20 years ago this culture still allowed for some human niceties and maybe polite conversation. Now it doesn’t seem you have to play at being nice anymore but available. The creators of Tinder built a place for people to meet, what they met for was up to the people.
Human beings have a propensity for creating technology that will make their lives easier. Food on demand, cars on demand, homes on demand, why not sex on demand as well. This is not necessarily a bad thing if everyone is clear on the rules of engagement.
There are of course exceptions to the rule. People who have met and made genuine human connections and since left the world of Tinder to go enjoy those connections. However, the majority of the Tinder experience are the rule, just read many of the think pieces that explore the average experience. Friends convince you to keep at it because they know guy who knows a guy who met his wife on Tinder.
What people do with Tinder is actually quite irrelevant, it is here to stay and with busy lives it is likely the easier way to try to connect. What I am interested is how Africans are playing on Tinder. Is the app’s use, results and experiences universal? Have young Africans too resigned themselves to the hookup culture as well and is it a case of wham bam thank you ma’am? Is there even a thank you? Or do people just go back to swiping? Are we also playing the game of who gets to care less? Or Perhaps when it comes to sex and love, more is more?
There isn’t a fine line between love and sex. I am not sure people are looking for love on Tinder. How would that look if they were? However, there is a fine line between sex and intimacy, hookups and courtship. On Tinder, we don’t bother to fake intimacy anymore, the nature of the platform requires images to be doctored to attract a suitable coitus partner. There are no courtship just hookups.
If young successful people are looking for a place to meet like-minded people for the purpose of courtship, then we are all in trouble. We keep asking the question, where do you meet people in current times? It seems the real question should be why and what. Why are we looking for places to meet people? What is the outcome we hope for?
If Tinder is our last hope for connection, then we may have some thinking to do. Perhaps we need to begin with a redefinition of connection before we can find the place we connect. To exist in the world of this appify dating, you have to be open to the reality that no one will give you their heart, just their body. Frightening more, no one will want your heart, just your body. A generation that solely thrives on that is bound to leave some damage.
As we make our way through the evolution and revolution of our sexes we forget that most revolutions end in blood shed and the broken pieces of a world long gone. The hookup culture only works if everyone checks their hearts and feelings at the door. The societal and emotional damage that will follow is bound to shake up the fabric of how we date and maybe even love.
The scar tissue of what the Tinder generation is doing to courtship and intimacy will be indelible and not in a good way. No one has given this much thought, the consequences of who we are becoming, of who we have no choice but to become.
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